Unofficial Invites

So the winter season begins again (kind of) and trips are being organised. We've got a big crew of people heading out for some good times in the snow this weekend. Some cordially invited, some not so much. But for the sake of good times you don't really want to outcast people, right? Most of the time you don't intend to not invite someone, you might just forget.

I recieved a text message the other night from a guy that basically said, "Mate, heard you're going snowboarding on the weekend. I'm in". Not that I didn't want this guy to come, but it came to me as a bit of a semi-amusing shock. The worst thing is, that guy always ends up outcasting himself through the unofficial invite anyway. It's the guy that tries to join in on all the "in" jokes and just ends up sounding or looking way too keen.

Back in high school me and a bunch of friends invited a stupid (appealing to dudes only) game called 'Rape'. Sounds terrible, I know. The game was basically, in a public place, one participant would yell 'Rape' and attempt to wrestle the other guy into a provacative position. The other person, when provoked, wrestles back until one person is declared the victor at 'rape'. We played this a bunch of times in shopping centres, movie theatres and even in the middle of saturday football games. Two of my friends in particular, played this game in the middle of class at college a few times, much to the amusement of the other classmates. Outside of class, there was one guy who tried to fit in with this game and continuously came up to my friends yelling 'rape' loudly in the hallways and then mildly attacking them with moves like poking, noggieing, or a dece' chinese burn. This kid was lame, and solidified this status through self-appointed inclusion into such 'in' games; or unofficial invites.

Everyone would like to be included and everyone wants to be popular whether they admitt it or not. We've all had a new boyfriend or girlfriend before, and we know how annoying it is to stand there when you first meet their friends and have no input into all the 'in' talk and gossip that goes on. Word of advice guys; don't assume automatically that you are welcome to join in on things just because people may have talked about it out loud around you. It would probably be less lame to just create your own day out at the same location, invite like one or two people, and then just "happen" to meet the other group out there and say it would convenient to hang out.

Actually, scratch that. That's probably worse...