Advancement's for the Socially Inept

Coming back at ya with a vengance. In the past month or months I haven't really had anything of value to write about. This continued until the other week, when a recent realisation of some personal flaws that I didn't think I had got me wondering about how technology has a huge impact on relationships in society today. This is going to make me sound like a veteran, but even if I take my pin-stripe high pants and suspenders down for a tick the thought is still there. I want to side note here saying that this has nothing to do with anything happening in my life at the moment, but was still just a thought about stuff in general. But seriously, kids these days with their facebook and their mobile phones and what have you, are fucking up relationships.

I'd like to go on record and point the finger at new technologies, for causing probably 40% of the 50% divorce rate. Where back in the day it would be easy to catch your husband or wife cheating, because noticeably, they would be gone physically; it is not so easy to catch a rat when it sits in the hole, texting or facebook messaging your cheese. Secondly, people were unfaithful a lot less before this shit. I'm not trying to say that people only didn't cheat because of the fact they might get caught, but I'm saying that it simply wasn't an option; because when you comitted, it was plainly because your partner is amazing and you don't want to know about another option as it doesn't matter.

Then comes along the mobile phone and facebook. Yeah they have all extended the capacity for communication (woopeedoo) and obviously I am sucked into these things too; but they have also extended the capacity for private communication and opened avenues for boundary pushing. I know friends of mine who have had girlfriends (HAD being the operative word, let that be a warning to you kids thinking you can pull it off) who have had 'cyber-girls-on-the-side'. In these circumstances, a simple facebook add after some harmless flirting on a night out turns into classic boundary pushing. I specifically remember warning my friend (who will not be named) against taking it further when he stated "It's just facebook man, it's not like I'm going to do anything". Weeks later, this friend of mine is newly single and understandably upset because he thinks he hasn't done anything; but he has, and call me a bad friend, but no sympathy from me. Regardless of this, emotionally cheating, in my books, affects relationships just as bad as physically cheating and rapidly erodes the fabric of a relationship just as much as the next mistress.

Admittedly, facebook and other social media has opened the market for complete retards and the socially inept to extend their introduction to girls and boys because of situations that require no actual physical introduction and therefore no direct rejection resulting in embarrassment. But this being said, I ask you, is this what we want? Meeting that special person is a fucking hard task, but if you do it the right way (the old fashioned way) then it is way worth it. Meeting potential partners through the internet is about as helpful as meeting partners at a club or bar. You're diving into murky water.

Cliche comment warning: The harder the journey the sweeter the reward. I am going to be doing long-distance later this year, and I am just incredibly lucky that I trust (and recieve trust and honesty) to the extent where this kind of thing isn't an issue for either side. In most situations though, facebook and texting are the kind of things that send a relationship over the proverbial edge; as in send a person crazy wondering about a simple coded comment or photo. I love the fact that the person I am with now I didn't meet through facebook and in fact only recieved my first text months into the relationship. I love the fact I was nervous as hell the first night we kissed and it took a whole lot of courage to even approach her on the night; courage that wouldn't have been in the equation had my introduction been typed instead of spoken. I love the fact that there is not much (apart from the obvious language barrier) that facebook can tell us that we don't already know about each other, only because facebook plays the most minimal part (and should always). I also love the fact that I have no interest in romantic warfare whether it be physical, emotional or technological, and you should too!

Get some integrity people, and don't come crying to me when you come home to discover you're no longer "in a relationship" when your girlfriend (who you coincidentally met on facebook) removes status instead of actually telling you.